I was determined to let him know my mind and express my feelings without reservations.
“How could he do A, B and C to me and carry on as if nothing happened? I will go meet him and tell him my mind. It’s me Donzoby, I will tell him my mind” I said to my self as I scanned my head for the appropriate day to see him so I can call and tell him that I want to see him.
“Tomorrow evening will be good because I’ve got a few things doing today and again it will be so sudden to call and request for a meeting the same day” I reasoned.
Yes, it was so, I was looking at what wrongs has been done to me by him as I lay on my bed to stretch myself (programming can be mentally and physically draining especially when you are not yet getting the results you expect).
As I continued to think on my plan on how to see him while lying down, Wisdom stepped in. He wouldn’t let my plan fly so that I won’t fry.
Immediately, I shifted the attention to myself and the way I’ve also treated the brother in question. The many possible things I might as well have done wrongly against him and I’ve never said sorry.
Why is it only this my own that I care for? What about the hurt and offense he himself feels due to my actions and inaction?
Gradually, it dawned on me that if our both offenses should be weighed in a balance, it will weigh the same amount and cancel out each other. Therefore, I have no right to be or feel offended.
You see, from the above, the reason for feeling offended and hurt in our lives most times is not really because so much wrong has been done to us but because we are blind to the wrong we have done to others and deceive ourselves with the thought of being the one who is right always.
We never make much efforts to put ourselves in the shoes of others to think for a moment how they might be feeling about our actions towards them.
If you have not known yourself enough to know that you naturally will be partial when judging others, then you still know so little of the human heart.
Even with the help of the Holy Spirit in the converted hearts, it still takes a lot of self denial and deliberate effort to make excuses for others as we make for ourselves.
This is important because how far in life you will go in your marriage, businesses, ministry and career will depend a lot in your ability to form and sustain relationships and you cannot sustain relationships if you always look at the wrong done to you without taking time to consider how much wrong you yourself is doing to people around you.
We all need to pay attention to this because nobody outgrows this. I’ve seen it in the young and the old, the poor and the rich, the illiterate and the educated, the sinner and the anointed.
God bless.
Pst. Donzoby @KOLIC